Beyond Weary

What does it mean to be weary?

Weariness is different than tired. Tired implies short term. If I’m tired I might need sleep or a short break from activity.

Weariness implies weight and length of time. It is lots of tired’s stacked together. Weary is overwhelmed, solemn, almost defeated. It encompasses not just the physical, but the mental, emotional and spiritual part of ourselves. It is the difference between taking a beating and being beaten down.

Weariness is writing your resume in 2019 and then rewriting it in 2020. It is trying to solve the same problem so many times that it consumes you. It is being forced to move from a place that you love. It is the shear exhaustion of continuing to work while being isolated from family and friends and then also having to become your kid’s teacher at home all at the same time. Weariness is looking around and being overwhelmed at the prospect of doing anything.

There is an activity that I have used when speaking to groups where I ask 2 audience members to volunteer. I usually pick the first one and then tell them that for the 2nd person, I need the strongest person in the room, to which I usually end up with an older teenager who clearly lifts weights. I hand them each a text book and tell them to hold it out in front of them with their arms straight while sitting next to me on the stage. The book only weighs a few pounds, so they both can accomplish this easily. Then I tell them to hold it there while I go on to talk about whatever the topic of the day is.

After a few minutes, they are usually both starting to sweat, but the strong guy is trying not to show it. I ask the other person if they would like to ask one of their friends to come out of the audience and help them, to which they always respond yes! Their friend comes down and puts their hands under the book and helps them hold it up. After another few minutes of me talking, the strong guy is almost always in distress. I remind him that a few minutes ago he said the book was easy to hold.
“Well it’s not now,” he usually says.
“I haven’t added any books,” I remind him.
“I don’t know. It just got heavier,” he responds.
I thank and excuse them both.

Isn’t that how weariness works? We carry something that we think don’t think is heavy enough to ask for help with, and so we don’t. But once we carry it for long enough, it becomes overwhelming. There are several applications to the exercise above; the power of asking for help, the power of helping others and also the fact that teamwork doesn’t change the load, just the way we carry it.
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I look around and I see weariness on the faces of people I know and even people that I don’t. There is a heaviness around the eyes, a slumping of the shoulders, a slowness in their step. The physical manifestation of weariness is easy to see. The mental, emotional and spiritual signs might be less obvious, but you can see if them if you look. Mentally it is hard to have a complete thought or even make a plan. Emotionally you might be all over the place, waffling between crying and laughing. Or you might be one step further and have trouble feeling any emotion at all. Spiritually, it is hard to feel blessed and equally hard to feel hope.

So how do we fix it? How do we move beyond weary? Where do we find the strength to go on?

In the example above, the burden became lighter when the person asked for help. The sense of weariness was immediately lifted when people came alongside them. There is a sense determination and encouragement that we can only derive from others. For a runner in a distance race, cheers from the crowd are great, but having another runner come alongside them is even better. Their head lifts, their gate lengthens and they move easier down the route. We all need people; people to encourage us and people for us to encourage.

In the Bible, Jesus tells that the answer to weariness is rest. But it’s not rest in the form of a vacation or a nap. He offers us the opportunity to “take his yoke and learn” from him. At first glance, this seems ridiculous. Why in the world when I’m already burdened by so much, would I want to take on anything else? I would like to suggest that he is not asking you to add to your burdens. He is asking you to exchange them. He is asking you to give him your worries, your cares and all the things that keep you up at night and make you feel helpless. In exchange, he will give you his “yoke.”

A yoke is a type of harness that gets put on oxen that are plowing a field. It allows them to be steered so that they are headed in the right direction and 2 oxen carry it together. Following this example, the yoke that Jesus offers will provide guidance to help us head in the right direction and he will carry it with us.

The full passage from the book of Matthew reads, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

So if you’re feeling weary, do a few more things:

  1. Take a breath
  2. Take a step back and evaluate
  3. Count your blessings
  4. Ask for help
  5. Give your problems to God
  6. Ask him for direction
  7. Wait for the answer

Press on weary traveler! See you in 2021!

Patricia

Finding & Embracing Your Role

Andi Wenck is a former collegiate goalkeeper for the Maryland Women’s Soccer team.  She is currently an experience design student at the Brand Center in VCU.  Andi shares her experience as a back up goalkeeper who landed at Maryland as a transfer her sophomore year.  Her experience growing up on a farm gave her a great start at learning responsibility and follow through.  Then as a college goalkeeper, she knew she might never see the field, but tells us why she felt it was important to always give 100% and how she found other ways to contribute to the team off the field.  

Andi talks about how FCA helped give her a safe place to go and feel refreshed and encouraged and how creating a team Bible study created camaraderie within the team.  She also talks about her YouTube project called “Beyond the Bench” where she vlogged behind the scenes with the Maryland Women’s Soccer Team.  You can find those episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMGED82hYoE 

Finding and embracing her role gave Andi a sense of purpose and made all the little things that had seemed so difficult before, not so hard.  Finding her why allowed her to bloom where she was planted.   

For our highlight reel, we all shared why we choose one word every year for the year.  We highlighted the book, One Word that will change your life by Jon Gordon, Dan Britton and Jimmy Page.  The book explains how to go through the process of picking a word for the year instead of making resolutions and how the simplicity of one word brings clarity and impact.   

You can still register for our Huddle for Women event on January 9 on our website: www.lifeisateamsporteveryday.com

It’s a Wonderful Life

The 1946 classic starring Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed depicts a man named George who keeps getting “stuck” in the small town of Bedford Falls. He has big dreams to travel the world, but life keeps getting in the way. His father dies and leaves him his business and his brother gets married and leaves town.

George ends up getting married and having kids, all the while living in the same small town, running the same small building and loan business but feeling resentful that everyone else gets to leave and have adventures.

The entire movie is filled with beautiful moments; George saving his brother’s life, George giving his honeymoon money to locals when there was a run on the bank, the local community that George and his company help to build for people who couldn’t afford a home otherwise. Also throughout the movie, George’s friends from childhood appear having traveled the world, chased their dreams and found success.
The movie ends with George getting to see the difference he has actually made and that he has actually had A Wonderful Life.

Have you ever felt stuck? Ever felt like the world was passing you by while you take care of what’s in front of you? Especially this year, we have all felt moments of loss and isolation. But we don’t need to let that define us. It’s all a matter of perspective.
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Life is made up of moments not accomplishments. That is what George didn’t realize. While he was busy being jealous and complaining, he missed appreciating all of the beautiful moments that had made his life so rich.

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As 2020 comes to a close, how can you take time to appreciate the moments and people in your life? Here are some ideas:

  1. Create a photo album from this past year
  2. Call 3 people to let them know you appreciate them
  3. Put away screens the next time you have a meal with people
  4. Make a list of 20 things you are thankful for
  5. Start a journal or if you already have one, read back over what you wrote this year
  6. Give back, whether that is to charity or someone you know who is in need
  7. Get outside and spend time in nature
  8. Spend an evening with friends or family, even if it has to be virtually
  9. Pray/meditate
  10. Watch It’s a Wonderful Life

Teddy Roosevelt is credited with saying that “comparison is the thief of joy.”

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There is a sign that appears in the Building and Loan office during the movie that reads, “All that you can take with you is that which you give away.”

Living a life of significance is the true adventure. Embrace the adventure today!

Merry Christmas everyone!

Patricia

Keeping the Wonder

Today we take a holistic look at keeping our love for the season and embracing what gives us life without getting overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle.

Some practical ways to keep the wonder:
– find ways to serve others
– foster a spirit of giving
– saying “yes” to the right things and “no” to others

Holistic strategies:
Mind – find space in the day to mentally reset, get a break from screens & being organized with meal planning
Body – Prioritize exercise and sleep
Spirit – Making time for prayer & meditation, being around people who encourage you, knowing your why 

For the Highlight Reel, Patricia shares about her new favorite app called Encountering Peace, which started as a podcast.  You can find it here: https://encounteringpeace.com
It is a 15 minute guided prayer and meditation for each day.

In the Blooper Reel, Becky shares one of her favorite most embarrassing moments from teaching. 

The Huddle for Women is a virtual, free event on January 9.  You can get more information and register on our new website: http://www.lifeisateamsporteveryday.com

You can follow us on Instagram @life_is_a_team_sport 

Attitude is Everything

Our attitude in good and bad circumstances is our choice. And that choice will affect everything else. Join us for our conversation with Val Brock as she shares about growing up in the south, cheering for college football, playing youth sports and the accident that changed everything. Val talks about losing her leg and the way she embraced that challenge from the start. She also reminds us that there is beauty in embracing your normal. ********** In her highlight reel, Val tells us all about Kylie Jenners new eye makeup and why it smooth as butter.

Mindset Matters

Ele Margelos shares about why mindset matters and how to have a strong mindset. Ele, currently the head women’s soccer coach of Washington Adventist University, special Ed teacher in Montgomery County MD and freelance photographer, talks about developing a strong mindset as a youth soccer player through discipline, competition and developing a love for the game. She also addresses overcoming injuries and setbacks, setting goals, positive self talk and the importance of accountability. In her highlight reel, Ele tells us about SHEIN, an online shopping app that she is using to get Christmas presents for friends and family. Check it out at http://www.SHEIN.com Ele also mentions a book that she is reading called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. If you have questions or things you think should be included on the show, email us at: lifeisateamsportpodcast@gmail.com. For more great content, follow us on Instagram @life_is_a_team_sport

Go to Goal

Setting goals in an important skill. Learn how to make SMART goals that give clear direction and a clear picture of what success looks like. Smart is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Listen as we share goals that we have achieved in the past and how they qualified as SMART goals.

Also, for our Highlight Reel, Becky shares how Jamie Ivey and her podcast “The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey” was part of her inspiration for wanting to start this podcast.

For our Blooper Reel, Patricia shares one of her favorite mother of the year moments.

If you have questions or things you think should be included on the show, email us at: lifeisateamsportpodcast@gmail.com

For more great content, follow us on Instagram @life_is_a_team_sport

About Us

What’s it like to be friends for over 20 years?

Well I know how it feels and we are here to share! Patricia and I have been friends for over 22 years! Wow right? It is pretty incredible to have a friend who has known you for so long through so many highs and lows in life. The years fly by when you have “your people.” They know your flaws and love you still.

Patricia and I met as 18 year old freshman in August of 1998. We both were recruited by Coach Davis to play soccer at Clarks Summit University, formerly known as Baptist Bible College. Patricia was a goalie and I played midfield and defense. Soccer was our first bond and basketball became the second. We both walked onto the basketball team and spent almost all our time together that year. Patricia went on to finish college at Mary Washington College. I finished up at Clarks Summit in 2002 with a bachelor of science degree.

After college Patricia went on to marry Kevin and they have been raising their four children while residing in Maryland. She is the Collegiate Director for Fellowship of Christian Athletes at University of Maryland. I married Matt Pineo and we enjoy living in South Jersey while raising our two children. By day I am a middle school Physical Education teacher. I know, I know, I’m a saint for working with hormonal teenagers! I definitely fit right in with them!

Patricia and I stayed in touch after college. She has made an annual trip to the beach to visit us every summer for the past 10+ years! This podcast organically came to mind in October of 2020. I have always loved to connect with people and this seemed like a natural next step to use the gift of gab that I have!

As we gather in our “team room” each week to explore lessons we have learned from sport and how our faith, fitness, family and fun weave their way into our everyday lives, we hope you will walk away being encouraged to know you are never alone.

Becky