In today’s interview, Becky & Patricia talk to Sara Wolf, a former basketball player from George Washington University. Sara is now working for the Fellowship of Christian Athletes in Anne Arundel, Maryland. Sara talks about how she used to find her identity and significance in her performance on the basketball court and how unhealthy that really was. She talks about how her faith has played an important role in helping her to live an integrated life and have a better perspective.
Sara talks about the Daniel Plan detox that she did, which was 40 days of cutting out certain foods and looking to live a healthier lifestyle. She talks about the importance of a healthy mind, body, and spirit and how the detox really impacted all three. She also explains the importance of accountability and friends during the detox as well as keeping her mind and spirit nourished as well as her body. In the end, the Daniel Plan was the kick start she needed to have a better relationship with food and to understand that the right foods bring life and give energy.
In her highlight reel, Sara talks about going for walks with her Dalmatian and leaving her cell phone at home. She encourages all of us to unplug and walk and talk to God.
The Enneagram is a personality test that goes deeper than the surface. It helps us to understand ourselves and other people and love them better.
The test itself only takes about 10 minutes to take and you can take that here.
Once you have taken the test and seen your potential results, go to The Enneagram Institute to check out your possible types more in detail to determine which number you most identify with.
Becky talks about how she is an Enneagram 7 which is the Enthusiast and Patricia describes herself as an Enneagram 8, the Challenger. The Enneagram shows us what each of these personality types look like in healthy as well as what they can look like at unhealthy levels.
Your wings are the 2 numbers to either side of your Enneagram type on the circle and the more you learn about the Enneagram, you start to understand how those traits also play into your personality.
Becky and Patricia are excited to welcome Anna Montes, one of their college teammates to join them.
Anna talks about the importance of perseverance and defines perseverance as “living in the hard.” Anna talks about some personal struggles in which she needed to persevere and how she learned that through conditioning in soccer.
She encourages us to:
1) Expect hard times will come 2) Lean into them instead of running from them 3) Find purpose in the pain 4) Figure out what’s next and just do the next thing
In her highlight reel, Anna shares about Wisdom Online, which is a website that goes through every book of the Bible to help people understand and study it better.
We all have excuses. We all have that inner voice that we allow to discourage us. What do we do about it? How do we combat excuses and move forward in freedom to accomplish our goals?
Becky & Patricia talk about the importance of knowing your why, because when you know your why you will know what to do. Then once you know what to do, you can figure out how you will do it.
An important question to ask as you look at habits you would like to change: “Is this serving me?” If your habit is not serving you or you always find yourself caving to the same excuse, create a plan that will serve you and help you reach your goals, then build in some accountability.
To combat excuses, you need to: – know your why – have a plan – have accountability – have a time table
In her Highlight Reel, Patricia talks about her new Day Designer. Then Becky shares about a time she fell in the lake trying to get out of her kayak in her blooper reel.
Watching film as an athlete is both the best and worst experience you’ll have. On the one hand, it is hard to watch your mistakes, but on the other hand, you get to see where you can improve. You can’t hide on film. Video doesn’t lie.
Watching film in real life gives us the opportunity to identify our tendencies, notice patterns, make adjustments, and move forward. But what does watching film look like when applied to life?
Shanta Crichlow shares about her new Breakthrough Journal. She talks about how journaling has provided significant insights over the years and helped her have important breakthroughs. You can purchase your very own Breakthrough Journal on Amazon or Shanta’s website: http://spoiledbygod.com
Shanta also talks about how important people in our life can allow us to see ourselves through their eyes and help us understand how we are showing up, where we are doing well and where we need to make adjustments.
Barb Cordova has been a gymnastics coach for over 20 years. Before coaching, she was a gymnast herself. Measuring perfection comes naturally. Barb shares about her relationship with perfection as an athlete and now an adult and how she keeps perspective and helps her athletes keep perspective as well. She also shares about the loss of her firstborn and how God has redeemed that story. She talks about her favorite verse, Psalm 18:30, and how the word perfect in the Bible refers to being complete.
In her highlight reel, Barb shares about the online exercise classes she has been enjoying, and in her blooper reel, she shares about her most embarrassing moment as a college gymnast.
A few years ago, a friend of mine sent me what I thought was another personality test. On the surface that appeared to be accurate. The test took about 5 minutes and asked me a series of questions about how I felt about certain things, what I would do in certain situations, etc. Then you plug in your email address, wait sixty seconds and voila! A few numbers appear and suggest an enneagram type. You then can follow the link to learn more about this type.
My results came back and suggested that I was an 8, the challenger. That sounded interesting to me since I do enjoy challenging the status quo as well as challenging myself. I clicked the link to learn more. On the description page I was told that an 8 is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational. That still sounded like me, so I read on. As I continued on with the more in depth description, it was impressively accurate. It talked about how the basic fear of an 8 is being controlled by someone else, how people with this personality are fiercely independent but also look to be protective to those closest to them. At the bottom it showed examples of what this personality type looks like at healthy levels, at average levels, and at unhealthy levels. Fascinating. I could see various parts of myself in several different levels. Then underneath of that, was a compatibility chart explaining how an 8 gets along with the other personality types in the Enneagram. This would become more interesting once I learned the types of my husband and kids, my coworkers and my friends.
There are 9 numbers around the Enneagram wheel. Each of those numbers stands for a type. On the surface, that seems simple, but when you really delve in, you realize that there are a myriad of subtypes as well as levels to each type. As I have studied and learned and given the test to many people at this point, I have come to see the Enneagram less as a simple personality test and more as a way of seeing the world. Each of the types has certain tendencies in health and not as well as certain fears, strengths and weaknesses. It has been extremely enlightening when looking at how I interact with various people in my life. If I understand their basic tendencies, fears and strengths it makes me more understanding and less frustrated that they don’t see things my way.
With my husband for example. He is a 6, the loyalist. He is engaging, responsible and personable. He also has a tendency to worry and process things out loud. I remember a few years back there was an incident where someone did something very hurtful toward him and our family. He was extremely sad and anxious about what would happen as a result. He went around verbally processing the situation with multiple people that he trusted, including me. He wanted to talk about what had happened and what it could mean for the future and he verbally played out all of the worst case scenarios. When he wasn’t talking to me, he was pacing the floor talking to his dad about it on the phone, rehashing stuff I had just heard him saying to me. I on the other hand felt rage. I texted my friends to let them know what had happened and explicitly said that I didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t want to process it out loud. I wanted to set up an unsanctioned fight in the parking lot.
Now that I know more about the Enneagram, this tracks. The numbers are set up in a circle and within the circle, there are triads. My type is in the gut triad, also sometimes called the body triad. We feel things in a visceral way and tend to react based on instinct. My husband’s type belongs to the head triad, which means he spends a lot more time with his thoughts and processes things in a more intellectual way. Knowing this information actually helps me in two ways. First, it makes me less frustrated that he wants to talk through something for the twentieth time. I know that is his way of processing the world. Second, it helps me see how we balance each other out. I can help him get to the point of making a decision after ruminating on it for a while and he can help talk me off the ledge when I am ready to bite someone’s head off.
The Enneagram is also really helpful when studied on a team. I work with collegiate athletic teams and had everyone from one particular team take the Enneagram test a few years ago, including the coaches. The results were fascinating. The first thing we discovered was that almost half of the team had the same basic personality type. They were ones. The one has been dubbed the Reformer. They tend to be principled, purposeful, self-controlled and perfectionistic. It makes sense that in a group of high level athletes, there would be a contingent of ones. It was very helpful to me as I created team building activities and communicated with them to understand the basic lens through which they saw the world.
It was also helpful in understanding how they related with the rest of the girls on the team. We also had several threes on the team. The threes are Achievers. They tend to be pragmatic, driven and image-conscience. Both types are very goal based and hard working. A potential trouble stop though is that they both may be so task oriented, that they neglect emotional connection to each other and when rough patches come they don’t have enough relational connection to fall back on. Knowing this at the outset of the season, I was able to create opportunities for them to build meaningful relationship to avoid this pitfall.
Learning to work well within a group is an important skill that can be easily translated from being on a sports team. Becky & Patricia identify 3 very important aspects for us to focus on:
1) Lead self: Understand yourself and your personality. Understand your values and beliefs. Know your gifts and talents and your role on the team.
2) Lead others: Starts with relationships, so build relationships with those in your group. Learn their personalities, values, beliefs, gifts, talents, and roles. Be willing to accept feedback to improve your communication skills and lead with respect and relationship in dealing with conflict.
3) Follow well: Respect others and allow opportunities for others to lead. Observe and learn from others. Put the team first.
In her Highlight Reel, Patricia told us about the Enneagram, which is a test you can take that will reveal your type. There are 9 Enneagram types, that cover personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and perspective on the world as well as how your type interacts with other types. The Enneagram also covers what your type looks like when it is healthy and when it is unhealthy.
Unity requires harmony, where everyone is playing a different part moving toward a common goal. Today we spoke to Sarah Chamberlain about what unity has looked like in her life, ways to acheive it and what is required of us in that process.
We talked about how Unity requires empathy, prayer and communication and it gives us the ability to see beyond ourselves and accomplish more than we can on our own.
In her Highlight Reel, she talks about how she started homeschooling her 4 children this year. She referenced the book The Call of the Wild and Free, and said that it encouraged her to remember that you can’t replicate at home what they are doing in the public school system and that you don’t need to in order to be effective.
Everybody wants to have GRIT, but very few can actually define what it is and how to have it. In today’s episode, we tackle that very subject.
Laura Matera is the Director of Surf and Skate for Fellowship of Christian Athletes and she shares her background and why GRIT has been so crucial in her life from raising 3 girls to losing her husband to cancer several years ago.
Laura defines GRIT as preparation + persistence and lists courage, motivation, character, integrity, and resolve in the face of difficulty as key ingredients. She talks about the importance of “staying in the game” and how important it is to remember that we are an example for someone else.
GRIT is not something we are born with. It is something that we can build and foster in ourselves and others. If we are going to stay in the game, we have to train and prepare daily by being disciplined and faithful in the little things so that when we go through hard things, we have a “sticktoitiveness.”
In her Highlight Reel, Laura shares about She Reads Truth, which is a company that sends devotional books to its subscribers. They also have a website and an app. In her Blooper Reel, she talks about her tax season fail the first time she had to do her family taxes.